To my empaths and highly sensitive beauties ...

It’s important to remember that not everyone may understand or respect your need for boundaries. Some individuals may exhibit what can be described as predatory behaviours, which often reflect a desire for control rather than mutual respect and empowerment.

Understanding predator energy

This “predator energy” can be associated with individuals who display traits associated with personality disorders, such as antisocial, borderline, histrionic, and narcissistic personality disorders. While it's not appropriate to diagnose someone without professional training, being aware of these traits—which are thought to be present in around 9.1% of the population—can be beneficial for your mental health and safety.

In her book, Women Who Run With The Wolves, Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés discusses how individuals exhibiting predator energy may use others to alleviate deep feelings of loneliness.

While these...

Toxic Empathy
Psychologists make the distinction between “emotional empathy” and “cognitive empathy” or “social intelligence,” which is to appreciate what’s going on emotionally with another person without any contagion of feelings. Cognitive empathy allows us to understand that someone is suffering and still want to help, but without feeling what they are feeling. This distinction makes all the difference when it comes to serving and still conserving our energy.
Emotional empathy is a disembodied emotion, meaning that your attention is outside of yourself. You project yourself in the other person’s body, you feel what you perceive they feel.
Emotional empathy takes you out of yourself and places you in the other person’s shoes where you are disconnected from your inner world. You are out of your body and in an emotion that doesn’t belong to you. In the process, you contaminate your present moment awareness. In this state,...