This podcast conversation was recorded on October 22nd 2022.
Last fall, I had the joy of welcoming my dear friend and beautifully authentic spirit, Nancy Regan, to the Embodied podcast. An author, professional communicator, presentation coach, and an inspiring beacon of light, Nancy had penned her first book, From Showing Off to Showing Up: An Impostor's Journey from Perfect to Presence.
Nancy’s creation is a divine amalgamation of memoir and self-help, a true call to authenticity, and a guide to living a fearless life. What touches my heart deeply about her book is its gentle encouragement for readers to embrace intimacy with themselves and to find acceptance in every fragment of their being. This approach mirrors Nancy’s journey, and her transformation is interwoven within the words, an echo of her soulful dance with acceptance.
Our exchange on the podcast was filled with giggles and moments of genuine...
Psychologists make the distinction between “emotional empathy” and “cognitive empathy” or “social intelligence,” which is to appreciate what’s going on emotionally with another person without any contagion of feelings. Cognitive empathy allows us to understand that someone is suffering and still want to help, but without feeling what they are feeling. This distinction makes all the difference when it comes to serving and still conserving our energy.
Emotional empathy is a disembodied emotion, meaning that your attention is outside of yourself. You project yourself in the other person’s body, you feel what you perceive they feel.
Emotional empathy takes you out of yourself and places you in the other person’s shoes where you are disconnected from your inner world. You are out of your body and in an emotion that doesn’t belong to you. In the process, you contaminate your present moment awareness. In this state,...