Discernment is key here.
If your truth is not integrated within you, and you share it prematurely, two things will happen. First, if the person you are sharing your truth with doesn't understand it and can't see your truth, it won't feel good and you will doubt what you know to be true. Second, your truth won't have the clarity and the precision it is meant to have. It will be difficult to be clear and grounded and not get triggered. So next time you have a personal transformational experience and have understood something profound and life-changing, before you share it, make sure you have integrated the information enough to be ok with the other person's response. What you know is sacred. But not everybody around you is where you are and on a similar path as you. Honor your truth, keep it safe and nurtured with your love. You are the one to validate it. You are the one to believe you. You are the one to be the advocate and the mama bear to what you know to be true. There is a time to...
Fire needs to move, to flow, to express itself. We are used to controlling it, managing it, keeping it under wrap. It eats us up, it burns us out. It’s exhausting to manage our fire. Breathe into the intensity in your solar plexus, trust that your fire is intelligent and has purpose. Allow it to disentangle from your organs and nervous system. Let it unfurl and be set free. Bring it down into your belle, follow it up to and through your throat. Your fire is sacred. Don’t be scared of it. It is to be loved and embraced
This morning when I woke up, I was thinking of the phoenix rising from the ashes, and it reminded me that loss has always brought us back to life. Always. This cycle has never failed us, even in human death. The soul continues its journey, expanding beyond the boundaries of this world. This constant renewal, rebirth, re-emerging from what has died, is the collective truth of our nature as spiritual beings here in human bodies. And right now, there is a brand new experience of reality, waiting for us on the other side of everything that is dying within and around us. How wondrous!
Contemplating our current situation, whatever it may be, not from a place of ego or achievement or results, but with a soft inquiry within our heart, is an excellent practice to help us lean into what is dying to emerge anew. It helps us get unstuck and brings momentum to our process, it brings clarity to what feels confusing.
You can ask: How is the landscape outside of me, the reality out there reflected w...
On the path, there comes a time when you can no longer keep for yourself the knowledge you have acquired along the way and the gifts you were born with. Your healing journey has freed you from the weight of insecurity and doubt, and you sense a deep desire to connect with others and share your own unique medicine with the world. You are an artist in the medium of life, a leader, and you want to inspire, teach, entertain, coach, guide others.
Arriving here is such an accomplishment. We know the bravery it takes to choose the awakened path, to face adversity differently than it was modelled to us, to go against how things should be done, to create from the unknown, to commit to it, and to stay loyal to our light, no matter what. We know the immense freedom and joy we find within, the reward for our patience and our trust.
To arrive at this place is also the beginning of a whole new chapter, a whole new way of being in the world. When we choose to step out publicly with what we know, wi...
Toxic Empathy
Psychologists make the distinction between “emotional empathy” and “cognitive empathy” or “social intelligence,” which is to appreciate what’s going on emotionally with another person without any contagion of feelings. Cognitive empathy allows us to understand that someone is suffering and still want to help, but without feeling what they are feeling. This distinction makes all the difference when it comes to serving and still conserving our energy.
Emotional empathy is a disembodied emotion, meaning that your attention is outside of yourself. You project yourself in the other person’s body, you feel what you perceive they feel.
Emotional empathy takes you out of yourself and places you in the other person’s shoes where you are disconnected from your inner world. You are out of your body and in an emotion that doesn’t belong to you. In the process, you contaminate your present moment awareness. In this state, it is easier to betray yourself because you have lost touch with...
Happy New Year, beautiful souls!Â
May 2022 be the year you remember who you are and share your unique medicine with the world. We need you to be you, out loud, now more than ever!
With everything that has happened in the past couple of years, it's easy to let fear take over. Many of us have forgotten how to trust life. With our increased focus on the news and the global pandemic, our hearts have entrained with fear-based messaging and anxiety in the people around us.Â
We know who we are, and we know what we want. But often, we close in on ourselves unconsciously, from a fear that is not even ours, that does belong to us.Â
The incessant low-grade worrying that operates in the background without our conscious awareness sucks our energy. We become exhausted from always "fighting" and "protecting ourselves." Our bodies are intelligent, so to survive, we become apathetic. This is a protection mechanism. Our bodies are trying to keep us healthy and alive by shutting down our ability to f...
When I look back at 2021, I feel dizzy. The emotional rollercoaster was a lot to take for many of us. I often felt like my shoulders shrugged in, my heart tempted to close up. The disappointment felt was existential, like I couldn't be who I truly am, but not because I was in my own way. It felt the world was in my way. I saw how easy it was to give in to fear and go back to more safe, logical, and measured ways of moving through the world...
 Instead, I accepted the invitation and dug deeper. I found a wound in my heart that had been there for eons, a wound that said, "it is not safe to be that sensitive and that open, because in the end, it will hurt, you will be disappointed."
Familiar? This belief can take you back into old patterns very fast. It can easily be justified by how people around you live their life. It takes a lot of patience, trust in your core-essence, and more patience to move through. Your inner child holds this core wound, and it will work hard at protecting you...