Leading others well begins with leading yourself. Being in your body, connected to your passions, your fears, and your intuition makes you powerful. It amplifies your light. When you let your mind be in charge, your reach is minimized. You repeat the old, and there is very little space for creativity and true inspiration. When you are with yourself, within yourself, leading from an embodied place, your words have a quality of resonance to them. Their coherence ignites wisdom and insights in others.
You can be a leader that helps keep the status quo, making sure all run smoothly, so things remain the same. Or you can be a leader for change, an embodied soul whose mere presence is enough to inspire and shift the energy in a room. One keeps you small, and the other is the reason you were born. Be a catalyst for transformation. It is life-giving to everyone around you, including you.
Human beings have a peculiar and destructive habit of putting leaders and people with authority on a pedestal. We give away our power in order to feel secure, cared for, and part of a group. It also alleviates our deep-seated fear of loneliness. When we place someone on a pedestal, we separate ourselves from the responsibility of our path. We don’t have to fully own our life and our choices as we defer to someone else, like in a parent-child dynamic. As soul-realized beings, we need to let this go. Ultimately, you are the teacher, the one you have been waiting for. The advice of gurus, healers, parents, coaches, psychics, mediums, and others are helpful to a point, but when soul acceptance and soul-love is integrated, you move away from the teacher and move more into yourself. You come back to the wholeness that has always been there.
Stop. Right here. Right now.
Take a deep breath in through your nose, and let it out your mouth.
Continue. For a moment.
Stop going so fast. Just stop.
Right here. Right now.
Your heart knows. You are here.
Remember who you are. In your heart.
Stop. Pause. Breathe.
Come home. Be in you.
You are here. Now. How beautiful you are.
You are here in your heart.
Feel. This moment. Your being. You.
You. Are. Here. Now. Breathe.
This. Now. Is more important than anything you were doing.
Come back now. Be home.
In the centre of your chest.
Everything is there. Nothing is missing.
Breathe. Be here. Be home.
In your heart.
New Year’s resolutions are typically goals that we set for the coming year, results we plan to achieve. For example: “This year I will exercise, meditate, or somehow succeed more… and I will stress, drink, and overeat less.” Optimistic and caught up in the spirit, 'New Year’s Eve You' makes promises on behalf of 'Future You', and Future You never have a chance, because goals set in the future often stay in the future, and we find ourselves making the same resolutions the following year.
There is only ever right now. That's why deciding what you will be in the future is never as powerful as making changes in the present moment. Start thinking about how you want to live your “nows.” The best way to make your intentions a reality is to re-conceptualize resolutions as daily commitments, more like a “New Day’s Resolution.”
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One week before I was to lead my very first retreat, 10 years ago, I was really nervous. And I was frustrated with myself because up to that point I had been really excited about finally making this dream of mine a reality. But it didn’t feel so good now, I even thought of cancelling the program.
At the time I was working closely with Laura Kealoha, a Kahuna from Kauai, so I called her for some advice. She said: “Have you considered that this feeling you are having might actually be excitement, but it just feels different? Focus your anxiousness into a concrete action toward your goal, just as you would with your enthusiasm. Use that nervous feeling and...
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Empathy is such an important (and needed more than ever right now) human quality. It allows us to understand and share the feelings of others, to know what others need. It is essential in building a resilient and creative society. In fact, I think it should be part of the school curriculum because it is the building block for everything else if we want to lead a healthy and meaningful life.
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